November National Caregivers Month by Yvonne Ortega

November is National Caregivers Month.

Unfortunately, we all know a family member, friend or co-worker who has cancer or some other life-threatening disease that requires a caregiver. If you need a book written specifically for caregivers for yourself or a friend, look no further.

Cec Murphey wrote the book, When Someone You Love Has Cancer which was published by Harvest House. The gift book has short chapters and beautiful watercolor illustrations by Michal Sparks.

On the dedication page, Cec wrote, “For Shirley, I loved you before the cancer. Each morning I thank God for giving us one more day together on this earth.”

Cec writes in a simple warm manner to show caregivers how to care for their loved ones.

Because Cec walked the journey of caregiver for his wife, he understands the role of caregivers to listen, comfort and encourage the patient.

One of many points that stayed with me is when a cancer patient told Cec, “I don’t want you to do anything. I have people who provide the things I need. I’ll tell you what I want from you. I just want you to be available when I need to talk. Just that.”

Cec ends each chapter with a transparent humble prayer to God.

The Appendix is a gift to caregivers of practical things they can do to help those diagnosed with cancer. He divides the appendix into three sections: Before You Offer Help, What You Can Do Now, and Long-Term Caregiving.

What a wonderful book for caregivers. The appendix alone is worth the cost of the book.

Stepping Through Cancer: A Guide for the Journey

 Deborah Hardy was a caregiver for her late husband. She wrote a detailed step by step guide for caregivers, Stepping Through Cancer: A Guide for the Journey, published by HigherLife Development Services, Inc.

The first section of the book, Medical Steps, covers such things as a CT scan, a PET scan, and a port (catheter) or stent insertion.

The second section is Information Steps. Deborah explains what to do with all the paperwork and information, where to find more information, how to keep tabs on the doctors, nurses, and medications, and what to take to the ER.

The Treatment Steps cover surgery, hospitalization, chemotherapy, radiation, alternative medicine, and hospice palliative care.

Physical Steps cover possible side effects of treatment.

In the Waiting Steps, caregivers will learn what to do while waiting for test results.

Deborah addresses anger, thankfulness, fear, regrets, and grief in the Emotional Steps.

Relationship Steps help the caregiver deal with visitors, recording memories and asking for and accepting help.

One section of the book, Steps You Wanted to Know About but Were Afraid to Ask, addresses the difficult subjects of a coma, a DNR, planning a funeral or memorial service, burial or cremation, how to grieve, learning to live “a new normal” and keeping the memory alive.

Deborah Hardy includes five appendices which cover hints for patients, caregivers, family and friends, additional resources, and one appendix for the caregiver to write his/her own story.

Deborah includes a comprehensive index for this thorough book for caregivers. I highly recommend this handbook for the caregiver. The book comes in paperback or Kindle ebook.

Copyright © by Yvonne Ortega November 3, 2011

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3 Responses to November National Caregivers Month by Yvonne Ortega

  1. Sarah Goebel says:

    Thank you for sharing these resources for those who may be facing the challenge of care-giving a loved one with cancer. My father was my mother’s caregiver for six years after she was first diagnosed with lung cancer. My mother went home to be with the Lord Sept 30, 2006. I wish I had thought to give my father a resource such as this back then.


  2. Maureen Lang says:

    Sounds like a great resource! I’m a caregiver for my disabled son, which is different from being a caregiver for someone with cancer, but I have to say the advice Cec was given about just being there to listen is invaluable – for patients and caregivers alike.

    Thanks for sharing!


  3. National Caregivers Month is a great time to show appreciation for caregivers that devote so much of themselves and their lives to helping others. My organization, Good Days from Chronic Disease Fund, offers financial assistance to chronic disease patients that cannot afford the medication they need. Coming from a place of helping others, we truly understand how invaluable the work done by caregivers really is. Please visit our website for more information on our organization,


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