June 12, 2012 Leave a comment
Mel and I rediscovered something a few weeks ago that has always made a great impact on our marriage. We took a vacation. Just the vacation in and of itself isn’t what makes the impact, since we’ve traveled more than we wanted to most of our married lives. It’s the fact that we drove that made the difference. Not only did we listen to an audio novel on our long journey, but we also listened to a book on marriage enrichment.
If you’ve seen Mel and me together you might be tickled by that; we’ve worked on marriage enrichment since before we were married, and our assistant sometimes walks around the house with her finger down her throat making the most hideous face. She says we’re gooey about each other. True. But I contend that the marriage enrichment books have helped that happen. Of course, having a husband who is willing to listen to the audio with me is important. We do more talking than the audio reader does. We’ll listen for a few short sentences, then one of us will turn the reader off and say, “Do you agree with that? What do you think? Have you ever done that? Have I?” And off the conversation will go. An hour later we’ll realize the audio is waiting patiently for us to turn it back on, and so we pick up where we left off.
After my mother’s death a few months ago, we went to a grief counselor one time. For an hour we out-talked that poor man, whose main concern was that we would be able to communicate well about our loss. His determination by the end of the session was that we would recover from our grief. That was our last session.
We’ve done Bible studies the same way on long drives, as well as listen to and discuss many of our favorite novelists. It’s a great way to take a vacation, to grow together, to enjoy what may sometimes seem to be the long, tedious part of the vacation. I urge you to try it. Take something everyone would like to take part in, and see if it doesn’t help you grow closer as a couple, as a family, as a group of friends.