Being a Bridesmaid

Last week my schedule slowed down compliments of bronchitis, a sinus and ear infection. The day I felt the worst I laid low with the television remote by my side. First I watched The Proposal back-to-back, even though I’ve seen it multiple times. One movie I had not seen prior to my day in bed was 27 Dresses.

This movie starred Katherine Heigl as a woman who seemed doomed to be the eternal bridesmaid, and she had the 27 dresses to prove it. A writer named Kevin comes on the scene and asks how she can stand always being #2, sacrificing the attention and the best dress to the brides.

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Kevin’s questions got me thinking. When it comes to ministry work and my writing, I’m the bridesmaid. Can you relate?

My husband I and shared our thoughts on the subject. We often are asked to substitute or lend a hand when a leader leaves, goes on vacation, or for whatever reason can’t be at their regular post. We’re both honored to be trusted and it’s important to us to serve with the same love, grace, and enthusiasm the original minister has. More than once well-meaning friends pull either my husband or me aside and ask if things changed, would we want the position? Or, if it’s already vacant, why aren’t we gunning for it?

Simply put, we like the #2 bridesmaid role. When it comes to leadership, bridesmaid types enjoy an end date to their duties. Bridesmaids keep the bride happy, plan a shower, purchase gifts, and help ensure the morning of the wedding goes well for the bride. They are standing up and saying they believe in the bride and the choice she is making. But when the reception ends, bridesmaids get to go home and forget the dress. Brides are just starting the biggest role of their life.

I enjoy knowing someone needs my help, but that I can return the reins back to them. I don’t make a great administrator, but I love being an encourager.  When I give my time and talents to ministry, subbing or helping the main teacher, I’m standing up and believing in the leadership, just like a bridesmaid. Whether for a few short hours or in my husband’s case, a month or more, we like helping out. We love serving and making a difference to forward God’s Kingdom. But we’re happiest returning to our second (or lower) in command role.

Is there a time when being a bridesmaid isn’t always desirable?

Honestly? Yes. For me,  as a writer.

I’m still the encourager, and I love passing on website links and article info to other writers. If I can catch dialogue that’s off in a critique or promote a book on my website, it’s a great feeling.

Until one year becomes three and the writers who asked me for beginner advice are now published authors. I’m thrilled for them, but there’s a part of me picturing myself in one of the hideous bridesmaid dresses. When, if ever, will I get to wear the big dress called author?

I’m blessed to have contributing author credits, but I now feel the itch to take my writing up a notch. This means taking classes, reading books, and implementing critiques on my own work.  In the bride scenario I’m still dating, but I’d like to think it’s a commitment. Once I finish editing and research the agent process, perhaps I’ll be engaged. But like the bridesmaid smiling at the altar, it’s true.

One day I’d like to be a bride.

For now, I’ll wear my bridesmaid status in all the work I do and not take it for granted.

While I wait for the author call, I’ll be thankful I don’t have to wear a canary taffeta dress.

 

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Julie Arduini is a writer and speaker who uses surrender and chocolate in all that she does. She also writes contemporary romances with Upstate NY settings.

3 Responses to Being a Bridesmaid

  1. Sarah Goebel says:

    Julie,
    You are a great writer, and I really enjoyed your post.

    I have seen that movie and thought it was hyterical. How creative of you to tie the role of a bridesmaid with ministry activities. Truly those who are #1 at being #2 bless so many! I can relate to your thoughts concerning writing as well. I am seriously considering a writing class myself, but would never thought you were. And yes, at least we do not have to wear that yellow canary gown! LOL…God bless you, Julie!

    • Sarah,
      Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. God is so gracious to share what I’d normally not even see or pay attention to, and make a point about Him for me write about. It was almost immediately after hearing Kevin ask those bridesmaid related questions that the Lord shared the theme with me.

      I’m a Christians Writers Guild graduate and participate in ACFW classes. I’m signed up to take a free conference online. I keep plugging away, thankful not to wear ugly dresses for the journey. Blessings to you, too!

  2. adam sons says:

    This blog is too good and more details given on this site..good work..keep going..nice blog…

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